Name Change

Alright, I have gotten several comments/questions on what I decided to do with my name. Seriously, this decision was hard from me, I went back and forth, and I thought I had something decided and then something brought be back to square one. It seemed for several months I went around and around and around on what to do and the question on what I am going to do with my name kept coming up time and time again as I ran. I debated and debated, I hemmed and I hawed, I wrestled and wrestled, and eventually it became time to apply for a marriage license and I HAD to make a decision. I seriously even put off applying to get our marriage license because I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I was stressed out over this decision.

There are things on both sides of the issue and valid things on both sides of the issue at that, which didn't help. Soooo it complicated things. I hated making this decision. Marc, was fine with whatever I decided, he said he'd love for me to take his last name AND he simultaneously said he understood why I didn't want to change my name and said he'd support me 110% either way.

I talked to people who had changed their name who were passionate that I should change my name. I talked to people who had kept their name and were passionate that I should keep me name. I talked repeatedly with God about it and repeatedly asked for signs of what to do or even a skywriter. I talked with many a folk who I consider wise counsel and heard people passionate on both sides of the argument. The decision was mine and mine alone.

In the end I ended up with a mixed solution. I wasn't totally willing to drop my last name, I like it, AND there was a piece of me that wanted to take Marc's last name for a number of reasons. So the final solution was this: I kept my first and middle name, moved Thomson to a middle name (I am now one of those people with two middle names - yes, I realize that there are cons and pros to this as well), and picked up Marc's last name as my last name.

I now have begun to dreaded process of changing my name on EVERYTHING. [This process is sort of a pain and it's only just begun.] I am sure I'll update you on this process as it comes along, so far it is annoying to me.


How was the name changing process for you?
Any tips on getting this process over quicker or with more efficiency?

Switching my last name.....

I am totally jazzed to be getting married in June. I am totally excited for about 90% of it all. There are a few things I am not as jazzed or even mildly excited about -although I am working on becoming more excited. I have been a proud Thomson for 29 years. I love my name in fact. Thomson's are strong people. I am totally not yet convinced of the changing the name deal, really it depends on the moment you ask me.

Yes, I know it is easier once you have kids and blah blah blah and I have a colleague in my area who didn't change her name when she got married, and yes she said she is glad she didn't change her name but admits that it always hasn't been easy. People assume things (I know don't worry about this but seriously when you already live in a fish bowl there is no need or reason to make it worse), people can be dumb, life is already complicated enough. Yes, I know all of these things.

And then I think, I am just as much a Blake (my mom's side) as I am a Thomson and I have never carried the Blake name, although... if you looked at my family and our cheeks you would realize that we all have the same super round faces that we all hate. However, I am just as proud of a Blake as I am a Thomson and have never technically carried that name.

Blah. Change. Blah.

Not to mention do you know how much crap my name is on and how much crap I need to change in order to change my name (yes, this is me being lazy as an excuse). It'll be fine. I am whining now. I admit it.

Either way: true confession: I am struggling with this name change crap.
I am working on a solution.